Pre Nup or is it a case of Never Enup?

The very first time I heard of a Prenup before a wedding event was from a cousin of mine, Sandy Henson, who was getting married at that time to her longtime friend and soul mate, Fernando De Achaval in July 22, 2011.  She asked me if I could do her Prenup.  Prenup? I asked in horror.    Why do you need me for a Prenup?  Fernando asked you to sign a Prenup?  On what grounds do you need to sign a Prenup?  These were the thoughts racing in my mind and I immediately told her that a Prenup was such a tasteless way to start a wedding and that she should reconsider her wedding plans to him because I saw a red flag hovering somewhere there.  The actual definition of a Prenup is a document that either party signs before a wedding to protect significant assets that one brings into a marriage, in the event of a divorce or separation.  So formal and so business like.   Not romantic at all.

I felt like I had to be an Ate to her and give her my 5 cents worth of marriage advice because I felt I had to tell her something is wrong.  She laughed and told me to chillax because nowadays, a Prenup is actually a photo or video shoot not a document.  Susme!  Prenups by today’s definition are video or photo shoots of the couple in varying moments of love all captured in digital media for all to see and shown during the wedding reception.  This becomes part of their wedding album.  Huwow!!!!  I never felt so behind the times, considering I’m supposed to know this right?

I said to myself, wow how times have changed; I never had a Prenup during my wedding in 1996 so this Prenup concept was a bit shocking to me.  All that I had as a memento of my wedding was a wedding album with 5×7 photos inside it.  No video, none of the social media posting that we do get today.  I was getting over the shock but soon after felt relieved and excited to be a part of something romantic and magical, and so I agreed, and shock turned into excitement and being honored to be a part of this couple’s magical love train.  The shoot was captured by no less than Jason De Guzman of Imagine Nation Photography and Manu Cuevas.  Hair was expertly styled under the deft and skilled hands of noted hairstylist Alee Benson.  Makeup Used was Nars Bridal Palette on her eyes, MAC Lingering for her brows, MAC Studio Fix Foundation in NC 35, MAC Blacktrack Fluidline, Orgasm Blush, Makeup Forever Sculpting kit and MAC Spice lip liner topped with Angel Lipstick.

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Felt the love already.  First few shots of the day and there is no feeling of hiya or stiffness between the two.  Photographer Jason was excited to see the progress of the shoot.

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Lovers Delight.  This is one of my best photos. The bride used this for her profile photo in Facebook recently.

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Last few shots of the day and they were still in good spirits.  Jason couldn’t have captured it any better.

As I write this, Sandy and Fernando have been married for the past two years and I can testify that the mood and feeling captured in these few photos are still shared up to now.  When I follow them in their Facebook and Instagram accounts, I see them express their love for one another by posting random acts of kindness , some may call it oversharing or TMI (too much information) but I commend them for keeping the flames of passion burning between them.  Nowadays, love can be cheap and overrated, with expressions of motherhood statements about empty promises but not these two lovebirds.

Currently they are trying to expand their family and I wish them all the luck and happiness and I have no doubt it will be sooner than they think.  I can’t wait to see what happens next.

Love you both Sandy and Fernando.  A huge thanks to you for making me a part of your wedding and your lovefest.

  1. Acie,

    The first time I heard of prenup was in a movie. I can’t remember the title, but I do remember how strange the concept was. I could understand the necessity if a one is filthy rich like REALLY rich and a celebrity. But for prenup to go mainstream, that is something beyond my comprehension.

    So while reading this post, I can sort of feel how you were feeling. I agree, why prenup? WHY???

    And then like you, hehehe, that’s the term pala for pre-wedding pictorials? LOL!

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